• A GUIDE TO FAMILY DYNAMICS •
Welcome to DOLF, a new psychological theory.
DOLF stands for the DISTRIBUTION OF LOVE IN FAMILIES.
DOLF introduces a new approach to psychology that upstages our current Behavioral theories and immeasurably enhances our understanding of personality formation, behavior and treatment methods for both children and adults.
The author, VERA RABIE, Doctor of Psychology, discovered a new domain called the Mind of a Child that overturns our beliefs about the way the human mind works.
Current Behaviorism, which uses reward-and-punishment methods to manage behavior, is based on animal studies that are inappropriate for use with humans. Instead, DOLF follows child-centered thinking that, like a stream of consciousness, is based on human Emotions. By understanding the Mind of a Child, for the first time in psychology, DOLF unravels the mysteries behind human personality and behavior.
40 years of observation, independent research and personal experience led this author to a very subtle economy of LOVE that occurs in all families. Her discovery is that, without talking about it, every child is driven by instinct to compete vigorously with their next-born sibling for MORE LOVE or FAVOR from their parents.
So, how should parents DISTRIBUTE their LOVE??
Inevitably it seems, in response to their children’s competition for their LOVE and attention, the natural reaction for parents is to end up preferring, directing MORE LOVE at, or FAVORING some of their children over others!
DOLF proposes that FAVOR and DISFAVOR, or MORE LOVE and LESS LOVE, are the KEYS to human personality development and behavior, and NOT the behavioral indications we see on the outside. In the Emotional struggle for LOVE that takes place in a the Mind of a Child, parental LOVE is the most prized commodity. But unbeknownst to adults, one of their children is always able to attract, and actually receive, MORE LOVE than the other. It is a universal rule of family life that is as yet undiscovered.
*Also, refer to the Blogs for real-life cases of treatment using the DOLF method.
ABOUT VERA RABIE, DOCTOR OF PSYCHOLOGY
I obtained my BA at McGill University, and Doctor of Psychology from the University of Montreal. I later worked in long and short term mental health settings, adult corrections, youth corrections, education, employee assistance and private practice.
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